Featuring the Great Western Arcade, Colmore row, on Boxing Day “18.
Here are five things I’ve learned since I started speaking my mind in the world of work:
- Your speaking up is often as liberating and refreshing for others as it is for you. Since I started speaking out of turn, people know where I stand better and that I’m comfortable with who I am – take it or leave it.
- You’re more likely to find the things and people you want in your life, which links to the next realisation that…
- The world doesn’t stop turning, it actually glides along in rotation more smoothly. Your clarity acts as a filter for that which you do not accept.
- That as important as expressing yourself is, so is being mindful of how you communicate. I try to be as forthright in apologies and taking accountability as I am otherwise, and to consider how my direct and frank communication might be received. If I’ve nothing nice or constructive to say, I’d rather not say anything at all. If something’s to be constructive, it’s more than likely got to be respectful and thoughtfully expressed.
- Finally, you’ll be so happy. Speaking up is a reflection of your defining where and with whom you choose to exert your time and energy. When I met an acquaintance recently, she asked me several times if I had some special news, if I was engaged. Aside from the thought-provoking assumption that this is the happiest news a woman can have, it reflects just how happy being forthright in my relationships – including in the workplace – is making me.
Here is Leslie Perlow, speaking the same language in her TED talk.